EPISODE 124: How to Say No To Yourself and Still Feel Good

In this week’s episode of the Fat Murder Podcast, co-coach, Steph Miramontes (@soulcenteredfitness.co) and I discuss why telling yourself no isn’t always a form of restriction.

In fact, in many instances, telling ourselves no is a form of self-respect, self-love, or self-care.

Consider a plant-based eater, like our own Coach Steph Miramontes, who has chosen this lifestyle for ethical reasons. Not eating meat and other animal products is an easy decision for her because it aligns with her core values. She’s not operating from a scarcity mindset by making this choice.

The same could be said of someone with celiac disease who doesn’t eat gluten due to an intolerance. They just works around it by eating other foods they enjoys.

When making a decision that honors your values, it’s not coming from a place of scarcity with a goal of weight loss in mind.

You’re not choosing this with the hope to simply lose weight or force yourself to do something you don’t want to do, right? Sometimes telling ourselves no is kindness, not restriction.

Other talking points:

▪️Why is the human brain always wanting more?
▪️How to overcome the self-sabotaging “I deserve it” mentality
▪️The powerful realization that our thoughts are not-always the truth and how to harness these emotions

Give this episode a listen and let us know what you learned about yourself. Any powerful “a-ha” moments or realizations? We’d love to hear them!


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