EPISODE 117: You Can’t Change a Body You Hate

What if I told you that your body is a problem to be solved? I also don’t believe your suffering is because you have failed.

I believe your history of dieting is a rational response when trying to live in a culture that tells us that having the perfect body is a path to more worthiness.

It makes sense. As humans, we want to feel accepted.

If you find yourself in a challenging relationship with food and/or your body, it’s likely your natural inclination to want to control it by going on a diet.

Unfortunately, this complex problem is not as simple as eliminating sugar and eating more vegetables. This isn’t about restriction at all.

Join co-coach, Steph Miramontes, on this week’s episode of the Fat Murder Podcast to hear our thoughts on how restriction has never healed disordered eating, healed a dieter’s mind, or filled a lonely void. NEVER.

We completely miss the target when we aim here.

When you have a history of dieting, initially letting go of food rules frees your mind so you can start observing how you feel in your body — physically and emotionally.

Unfortunately, there are many gurus in a perpetual quest to solve the problem of our bodies. They want an answer! They want to package and sell it to us.

They want to tell you what is hard about your lives without listening to your lived experience.

Their hope is that it will make sense, similar to an algebra equation. This is also what diet culture is after – a set of instructions that will lead to a fix: another detox diet, another fat burner pill, another liposuction treatment.

This constant need to “fix” your body does nothing to address your mind. And that’s where the real work needs to happen.

You can’t diet your way into a healthier relationship with food and your body.

Don’t buy it. Dig deeper.




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